Every year, thousands of South African families face the heartbreak of losing a baby to miscarriage, stillbirth, sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) or other causes. October, observed globally as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, provides an opportunity to reflect on the devastating impact of such loss, and to highlight the support available to those affected.
Despite the prevalence of these tragedies, many families suffer in silence due to the taboo nature of discussing pregnancy and infant loss in some cultures. Sadly, this silence can intensify feelings of isolation, guilt and shame, especially for mothers who may feel an added burden of responsibility.
Tammy Dicks, national trauma support co-ordinator at ER24 (owned by Mediclinic), emphasises the importance of open dialogue and seeking emotional support: “Losing a baby is a deeply personal and often isolating experience. However, it is vital that families know they are not alone. Through counselling and awareness, we can help break the silence surrounding pregnancy and infant loss and provide the necessary emotional support to those affected.”
Studies have shown that up to 30% of pregnancy losses result in significant emotional reactions, with one in 10 women showing signs of a diagnosable condition such as anxiety, depression or post-traumatic stress disorder.
“Pregnancy or infant loss is often deeply traumatic, affecting both the body and mind,” says Dicks. “Bereaved parents and their families need a safe space to talk, ask questions, express anger, feel sadness and receive understanding, as this process provides affirmation and validation.”
She adds that, because men and women tend to grieve differently, couples counselling is also advised to help partners navigate their emotions and triggers without resorting to conflict. “Women generally need to talk about the emotional experience of losing their baby, while men may feel deeply but often don’t verbalise their emotions and are initially preoccupied with their partner’s well-being and thoughts about the future. Couples counselling can ensure both parents are able to process their grief and move forward after the loss.”
While it may seem too personal to share, Dicks says that reaching out for emotional support is an important step in coping with the loss of a pregnancy or infant. “If you need a safe and supportive space to process your grief, contact your healthcare provider for a referral to a psychologist for individual or couples’ counselling. Bereavement support groups can also be beneficial,” she adds.
Mediclinic is committed to supporting those affected by raising awareness and offering support to grieving families. The focus remains on breaking the silence around pregnancy loss and ensuring affected families have the coping mechanisms needed to process their grief.
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